Ideals

Just the other day, my lecturer asked me if I wanted a son as a first born. She was asking in the context of "Does the Chinese ethnicity view boys as leaders/more important?" 

I said yes, I want a son as a first born. Then she moved on to ask another girl. =P

I should've explained why I wanted a son as a first born. It's not because I think guys are better than girls. I'd be happy to have all girls too. (Poor dad, though, with no sons to share his manly interests with =P)

The thing is, ideally, I'd like to have a son and a daughter, and if I can bear the pain of childbirth, maybe a third child. I also want my son to learn to protect, love and lead his younger siblings. I don't really want my son to be the youngest and pick up manja habits, which, in my opinion, are more suitable for girls. There you have it, my preconceived notions of what a guy should and should not be like. =P 

Yes, I think manja guys are NOT sexy. The fact that a guy is the youngest in the family is enough to set off warning bells in my head, unless his older siblings are 1) all male, 2) much much older than him so he pretty much had to fend for himself.

As for girls, I'd prefer them to come after the boy(s) because then, they'd have a bigger brother to look out for them. Awwwwwwwwwww. I'd rather not have a bossy daughter (although I'm pretty bossy myself and I'm only the middle child =P) who's used to calling all the shots and bullying her younger brother. *winces* Might not sit well with the potential husband candidates in future.

Of course, I might just end up getting 44 dogs instead of kids. So these are just ideals.