Fear of rejection
I now know why guys are terrified of asking girls out.
Having made more friends over the past few weeks, I've also tried to spend more time with them outside of the book club. That, however, means I have to put myself out there and ask acquaintances if they would like to go for coffee or hang out.
Before that happens, though, I usually spend a few hours worrying if I'm appearing too eager to make friends. I don't want to be that clingy puppy dog/overeager beaver that people hide their annoyance towards and feel bad about declining invitations from. =P Asking someone out also means putting them in a position where they're obligated to respond nicely because it's the polite thing to do, and I really don't want to put any pressure on anyone. Yes, I know I'm the one with loads of free time on my hands and others have more pressing schedules. That only adds to my hesitation. In all honesty, I probably worry too much about other people's perception of me. I want to be that cool cucumber whom everyone wants to hang out with, and not the other way round. =P
Popularity and social networking were so much easier back in school when all you had to do was ...attend school. xD
Oh and I also don't know if we'll have anything to talk about, but how else do you get to know a person? They're acquaintances, which is why I need to hang out with them - to get to know them better. Maybe one solution would be to get a few friends together so that there's always someone else to contribute to the conversation. See? I tend to overthink. *sigh*
So yeah, now I empathize with guys who are expected to ask girls out. If a girl feels afraid of rejection when asking other girls out, how much worse would a guy feel?
Having made more friends over the past few weeks, I've also tried to spend more time with them outside of the book club. That, however, means I have to put myself out there and ask acquaintances if they would like to go for coffee or hang out.
Before that happens, though, I usually spend a few hours worrying if I'm appearing too eager to make friends. I don't want to be that clingy puppy dog/overeager beaver that people hide their annoyance towards and feel bad about declining invitations from. =P Asking someone out also means putting them in a position where they're obligated to respond nicely because it's the polite thing to do, and I really don't want to put any pressure on anyone. Yes, I know I'm the one with loads of free time on my hands and others have more pressing schedules. That only adds to my hesitation. In all honesty, I probably worry too much about other people's perception of me. I want to be that cool cucumber whom everyone wants to hang out with, and not the other way round. =P
Popularity and social networking were so much easier back in school when all you had to do was ...attend school. xD
Oh and I also don't know if we'll have anything to talk about, but how else do you get to know a person? They're acquaintances, which is why I need to hang out with them - to get to know them better. Maybe one solution would be to get a few friends together so that there's always someone else to contribute to the conversation. See? I tend to overthink. *sigh*
So yeah, now I empathize with guys who are expected to ask girls out. If a girl feels afraid of rejection when asking other girls out, how much worse would a guy feel?
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