Wedding preparations
As I type this, I have just finished googling "how to pose for wedding photographs". Not that I'm any wiser - that would take at least another 5 more articles on how to look photogenic and natural, not to mention leave me feeling despondent and hopeless that I'll get pretty wedding photos.
Seriously, the more articles on weddings that I read, the more I feel like I'm not cut out for this whole wedding thing. The "marriage" thing, maybe. The "wedding" part, not so.
You see, I am pretty bipolar when it comes to wedding preparation decisions. Below is a list of what I've thought about/felt/wanted at SOME point in the planning process (which is still going on) :
1. Let's have a simple wedding, I don't like the fuss of ceremonies, and the more frills you add, the more money you spend, and all this is just for ONE day, which isn't that big a deal. What matters more is the marriage after that, and I definitely don't want to spend all that money in a day.
2. I want a simple wedding, but I don't want a shabby wedding. Since I'm only having a few elements in my simple wedding, I want them to be simple + elegant + practical + economical + fuss-free. After all, I've always been impressed by nice, classy, multipurpose wedding invitations.
3. I want pretty wedding photography if I can't have anything else.
4. Why do I need pretty wedding photography if my wedding's going to be so simple? Might as well save on the photography - isn't it a little ridiculous for the photography to be more expensive than the rest of the wedding?
5. I WANT PRETTY WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHY. I DON'T HAVE MANY NICE PHOTOS WITH JIA WERN.
6. Pretty wedding photography costs at least 5k. *blink blink* I'm giving up on pretty wedding photography.
7. YES I GOT a pretty good deal from a photographer based in KL! Love his photos, and the best part is it's cheap! The date is booked, wheee. One thing settled. =D
8. Wedding invitations, another headache. WHY. I hate art. I'm bound to come up with something that isn't nice. In fact, I've changed my mind at least 3 times already regarding the design of the card. =.= DIY saves cost, and I can easily customize the card because Amy's in charge of that, but gahh I hate making decisions when art is not my forte. I want something classy. But 'classy' doesn't properly symbolize both Jia Wern and me. We're...practical. Down-to-earth. Sensible. Casual. MmmmAARGH. If this were my wedding dress, I wouldn't have to care about HIS personality, but since this is a joint thing...Okay procrastinate, think about that later.
9. =/ Do I know how to pose for my wedding photos? I mean, the photographer has a great portfolio, but nice photos are also caused by nice backgrounds and nice colours - is my wedding grand enough? Will my flowers look nice?
10. My wedding is once in a lifetime, why am I fighting so hard to scrimp and save on it? The more I try to cut cost, the more work I have to do surveying market prices and looking around for alternatives. The easiest way would be to get a wedding planner so I can have both beauty AND ease at the same time.
11. Wedding planners are expensive. Bridal studio packages are expensive and not worth it since I think pre-wedding photos look tacky. On the other hand, I don't have time to DIY everything. And I definitely don't have the expertise to plan a pretty wedding since I'm not art-inclined. Why do I even care so much? Do I really care if it turns out pretty or not? Am I doing this for the sake of nice photos? Whatever happened to "a simple wedding"? What about our parents' face? I can't just have a shabby wedding, they wouldn't want that for me either.
I need therapy. *sigh*
Learning everything from scratch isn't easy. I don't know what I'm supposed to know, like is the photographer supposed to pose us, or am I supposed to know what poses flatter me the most? Does it really matter whether the flower colours match exactly? WILL they match exactly? What about my shoes? Can I wear kitten heels so I don't look taller than Jia Wern? Will that look nice in photos? What about my bridesmaids? They're taller than me, should I make them wear flats? WILL that wedding dress look perfect after it's altered? Will I regret spending on this, or that? Will I regret NOT spending? Do I need a guestbook? Do I need to send out 'thank you' notes? If I need a guestbook, what will the design be? I haven't even figured out the design of the wedding invitation!
Reading online articles don't really help me feel better, because all I see are pictures of GORGEOUS weddings (which were most likely planned by a wedding planner), and I feel like...*sigh* unattainable beauty given my budget and my lack of commitment to the cause.
There's also that nagging question at the back of my head : Everyone does it, so should I? I don't want to...violate social norms or conventions by doing the bare minimum.
Can someone help pinpoint my problem, exactly? Thank you.
Seriously, the more articles on weddings that I read, the more I feel like I'm not cut out for this whole wedding thing. The "marriage" thing, maybe. The "wedding" part, not so.
You see, I am pretty bipolar when it comes to wedding preparation decisions. Below is a list of what I've thought about/felt/wanted at SOME point in the planning process (which is still going on) :
1. Let's have a simple wedding, I don't like the fuss of ceremonies, and the more frills you add, the more money you spend, and all this is just for ONE day, which isn't that big a deal. What matters more is the marriage after that, and I definitely don't want to spend all that money in a day.
2. I want a simple wedding, but I don't want a shabby wedding. Since I'm only having a few elements in my simple wedding, I want them to be simple + elegant + practical + economical + fuss-free. After all, I've always been impressed by nice, classy, multipurpose wedding invitations.
3. I want pretty wedding photography if I can't have anything else.
4. Why do I need pretty wedding photography if my wedding's going to be so simple? Might as well save on the photography - isn't it a little ridiculous for the photography to be more expensive than the rest of the wedding?
5. I WANT PRETTY WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHY. I DON'T HAVE MANY NICE PHOTOS WITH JIA WERN.
6. Pretty wedding photography costs at least 5k. *blink blink* I'm giving up on pretty wedding photography.
7. YES I GOT a pretty good deal from a photographer based in KL! Love his photos, and the best part is it's cheap! The date is booked, wheee. One thing settled. =D
8. Wedding invitations, another headache. WHY. I hate art. I'm bound to come up with something that isn't nice. In fact, I've changed my mind at least 3 times already regarding the design of the card. =.= DIY saves cost, and I can easily customize the card because Amy's in charge of that, but gahh I hate making decisions when art is not my forte. I want something classy. But 'classy' doesn't properly symbolize both Jia Wern and me. We're...practical. Down-to-earth. Sensible. Casual. MmmmAARGH. If this were my wedding dress, I wouldn't have to care about HIS personality, but since this is a joint thing...Okay procrastinate, think about that later.
9. =/ Do I know how to pose for my wedding photos? I mean, the photographer has a great portfolio, but nice photos are also caused by nice backgrounds and nice colours - is my wedding grand enough? Will my flowers look nice?
10. My wedding is once in a lifetime, why am I fighting so hard to scrimp and save on it? The more I try to cut cost, the more work I have to do surveying market prices and looking around for alternatives. The easiest way would be to get a wedding planner so I can have both beauty AND ease at the same time.
11. Wedding planners are expensive. Bridal studio packages are expensive and not worth it since I think pre-wedding photos look tacky. On the other hand, I don't have time to DIY everything. And I definitely don't have the expertise to plan a pretty wedding since I'm not art-inclined. Why do I even care so much? Do I really care if it turns out pretty or not? Am I doing this for the sake of nice photos? Whatever happened to "a simple wedding"? What about our parents' face? I can't just have a shabby wedding, they wouldn't want that for me either.
I need therapy. *sigh*
Learning everything from scratch isn't easy. I don't know what I'm supposed to know, like is the photographer supposed to pose us, or am I supposed to know what poses flatter me the most? Does it really matter whether the flower colours match exactly? WILL they match exactly? What about my shoes? Can I wear kitten heels so I don't look taller than Jia Wern? Will that look nice in photos? What about my bridesmaids? They're taller than me, should I make them wear flats? WILL that wedding dress look perfect after it's altered? Will I regret spending on this, or that? Will I regret NOT spending? Do I need a guestbook? Do I need to send out 'thank you' notes? If I need a guestbook, what will the design be? I haven't even figured out the design of the wedding invitation!
Reading online articles don't really help me feel better, because all I see are pictures of GORGEOUS weddings (which were most likely planned by a wedding planner), and I feel like...*sigh* unattainable beauty given my budget and my lack of commitment to the cause.
There's also that nagging question at the back of my head : Everyone does it, so should I? I don't want to...violate social norms or conventions by doing the bare minimum.
Can someone help pinpoint my problem, exactly? Thank you.
Good stuff with a cheap price tag. Ah the magic equation. Anyway if you do end up splurging *a little*, do allow yourself some leeway. It is your special day after all.
ReplyDeleteRegarding the wedding photoshoot, I'll let you know that a good photographer is one who addresses his clients' needs and queries. In fact, a healthy dose of client-photographer communication *is* the recipe behind successful photoshoots. And yes, photographers do sometimes direct their clients' poses, if the moment requires it. So go and ask away, it's *your* wedding and *you're* the one with the money after all.
All the best with your wedding preparations; can't wait to see the both of you begin a new chapter in your lives together.
Thanks for that bit of insight, Sonia..now I don't have to worry about camwhoring just to experiment with light and angles and my 'best features'. =P
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